Mai Altalhi

سي السيد يبحث عن زينب

فجأة استيقظ سي السيد من نومه ونادى على زينب, كي تسكب له الماء من الجرّة ولم تجبه ولم تأتي. فأضافة فوق التكشيرة تكشيرة وزمجرة منادياً زينب .

ظن أن انتظاره لن يطول عن ثوان وستأتي مسرعة اليه. ومرت الثواني و بضع دقائق ولم تهرع اليه كما اعتاد لثلاثين عاماً.

خرج من الغرفة متصوراً مائدة الإفطار جاهزة على الطبيلة ولكنه لم يجد الفطور وكذلك الطبلية! ذهب الى المطبخ متخيلاً وجودها بجانب البنور فلم يجدها ولم يجد البنور, أخذ يبحث في أرجاء المنزل كالمذعور ولما لم يجدها أخذ يردد مذعوراًً زينب اختطفت؟ زينب اختطفت؟

أهو في حلم ؟ أم كابوس ؟

أين زينب؟

مازال سي السيد يحلم بزينب. بارغم من أن زينب اختفت. والطبلية ولاّ عهدها والمياه أصبحت تخرج من الجدار لا الجرار و أن النار تخرج من الفرن لا من البنور!!

وأن زينب لم يعد لها وجوداً في عصرنا إلا في قصص تعد من الأساطير.

وبالرغم من هذا كله مازال سي السيد يحلم بزينب و يتزوج شبيهتها وعندما يكتشف أنها ليست زينب ولن تكون زينب يوماً يطلقها. ويستمر في بحثه بالرغم من أن لا زينب تريده ولا هي نفسها تريد أن تكون زينب.

Are you One of Them

“ Your present does not define your future but your behaviour does”

Please take a note if you have one of the following symptoms. Maybe you need to consult your doctor before its too late. The characteristics of the disease are as follows:

You show up to work in the morning whining before you even say hello/salam about how busy the traffic is, how the weather is too hot or maybe too cold. You complain about how bad the coffee tastes. Five minutes later, you complain because there is nothing to complain about! Uttering a long “ufff” and transferring all your negative energy to those around you.

If you have one or more symptoms of the above then I’m sorry to break to you that you have an obsessive complaining disorder (let’s call it OCoD to differentiate it from OCD) Those people are known to complain about the same thing to the same people in the same way and sometimes at the same time of the day!  They talk about problems and not solutions, agitation and not relaxation and bad behaviour and not manners.  Their problems tend to be magnified, making it bigger and more unique than any other similar problem. They demand change without taking any responsibilities, they believe they are the victims of the people, society or even the world without realising that they are, sadly, victims by choice (remember: there are no victim, only volunteers).  They blame  others for their own imaginative misery. I always wondered if they have ever made a list about their own drawbacks, what would they find?!

You cannot imagine how contagious this disease is, you can spread it similarly to any type of flu. It spreads by air travelling from a complaining person to another, making the whole hospital at the end of the day drained emotionally, mentally and physically. I wonder if you ever came across a person who complains and takes action at the same time! With their negative attitude, they tend to make people unhappy, they ruin your energy, spread gloom and misery.  They will be the first  to shoot down any new idea, kills your motivation, creativity and innovation. This kind of negative attitude causes mental and physical stress which can lead to heart diseases and ulcers.

The best way to deal with those people is to locate the nearest exit door the moment they cross your path. The truth is, no matter how many solutions you give them, it will never work out because simply their problems are not meant to be solved. Don’t make the big mistake of trying to cheer them up because that means your not taking them seriously. Trust me, run for your life. 

I must say that we might fall in the trap of complaining every now and then. Its not that you should not complain at all, sometimes we do it to seek a solution. The difference is that when you positively complain, you need to choose the right time and the right person to discuss it with. Second, focus your attention and energy on the steps you need to take to solve your problem. Finally, before you point fingers, look into yourself and the way you are contributing to either the problem or the solution. Remember: Be thankful, use the power of gratitude.

As Ilia Abu Madi Said ” You who comlian without being ill, be beautiful you see existence beautiful”

I have Learned

1. I have learned that the best relation you may ever have is a relation with God. You feel secured, well balanced and you have faith that you will never fall.

2. I have learned your mother, mother and mother.

3. I have learned to get the best out of people you have to give the best.

4. I have learned to give with out expectations.

5. I have learned that things that meant to be will be either you like it or not.

6. I have learned never waist my time thinking about the future, just plan “Now”

7. I have learned you have to face your fears before it comes to you while your not prepared.

8. I have learned never let someone be your priority while your not their priority.

9. I have learned that your biggest disappointments are not necessary BIG.

This was what I learned in 2008, wrote it in my diary on the 3rd of February 2009, except the 9th part I learned it this year.